Episode 28: Do we know how to build healthy relationships? A SEAT WITH… Lisa McFarland
Building Lasting Relationships: The Importance of Self-Love, Open Communication, and Individual Growth
Do we know how to build healthy relationships? That’s the questions the million euros question.
In our pursuit of deep and meaningful connections, the road often becomes fraught with challenges.
In today’s episode, we sit down with Lisa McFarland, relationship coach, to explore the impact of personal growth on relationships. We talk about how self-acceptance is crucial for healthy connections and why many struggle with intimacy. Lisa drops a couple useful gems on attachment styles and how they affect interactions. She build a career around helping couples having better relationships, better sex, but also… better arguments. We talk about how to approach conflicts, the healthy way, and Lisa share with us crucial non-negotiable tools to build healthy, lasting, fulfilling relationships.
Many individuals find themselves frustrated in their relationships, struggling to navigate conflicts, intimacy issues, and self-acceptance.
Emphasizing Self-Love and Acceptance
The foundation of any relationship begins with a healthy sense of self. To cultivate a fulfilling partnership, individuals must first embrace self-love and self-acceptance. When we lack these traits, we may seek validation from our partners, leading to co-dependent behaviours. If we do not appreciate ourselves, it becomes difficult to receive love from others effectively. Recognising the need for self-care and self-respect is essential, as it prevents individuals from entering unhealthy dynamics and encourages them to engage in lasting, loving relationships.
To foster self-love, it’s important to practice positive self-talk and reflect on one’s worthiness beyond external validation. Lisa tells us that cultivating compassion for ourselves not only enhances personal well-being but also enriches the connection we can build with our partners.
Open Communication as a Pillar of Connection
Strong communication skills are imperative for navigating the complexity of relationships. Conflicts will inevitably arise, but the manner in which we approach these disagreements can either undermine or strengthen our bonds. Lisa tells us that: Utilising "I" statements rather than "you" language can radically change the dynamics of a conversation. Instead of accusing or blaming, expressing feelings using "I miss us" or "I feel disconnected" allows both partners to engage with empathy instead of defensiveness.
Listen to Lisa casually dropping all her beautiful wisdom. Discover how to transform your relationships and enhance self-love.
So come and take,
A Seat With… Lisa.
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Her Website: https://relationshipcoachni.com
Her Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationship.coaching.ni/
📚 BOOK MENTIONED:
Esther Perel - Mating in Captivity
OTHER MENTIONS:
https://manenough.com - Justin Baldoni
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With Love, always,
Solène ☀️